Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Forgive

Forgiveness.  We need it when we do something wrong and want to wipe it off the slate.  We give it to people we love like our children.  It is a powerful thing, forgiveness.  It does not do away with the act committed but it does heal hearts and mend souls.  Usually we have to ask another person to do the forgiving but then sometimes it is ourselves that we need to forgive the most.

Have you ever been naive and found yourself a victim of someone else's bad action?  Have you ever been verbally abused, scammed of your money, robbed, conned, constantly lied to, etc, etc, etc..?  It happened without your permission.  It happened over and over again before you knew that it was not your fault and that you didn't ask for it.  You participated in this distructive thing by just staying until you could figure out what was happening and get away from it even if it took years. 

You have blamed the other person for their part.  You have forgiven the other person but the hurt is still there.  Why?  Well maybe it is time to forgive yourself for allowing other's to hurt you  by not running away the minute it happend the first time.  Forgive yourself for trusting that person in the first place.  Forgive yourself for believeing they were telling the truth when they were really liying and you just didn't want to believe it. 

We are all human.  We all make mistakes.  Forgiveness is for all of us.  If we don't forgive someone, it does not hurt them.  They usually live with that and accept it.  We don't punish them by holding hatred.  The hatred lives within us and eats away at ourselves.  The person you want justified is the one condemed, yourself.  " Forgive as I have forgive you", simple statement.  Not so simple to do sometimes.  Food for thought.